Modern Communication

 

Have y’all noticed something about our modern digital communication?

People seem to be yoked to communication devices 24/7/365. And most people expect immediate response when they reach out. Amiright?

This part of our society really, truly bothers me.

I am someone who works one on one with clients most of the time. When I’m not in a client session, I’m probably driving teenagers around to their many activities. I am a freaking busy professional bodyworker and a single mom. I am not someone who has her phone in her pocket all day. Honestly, it’s usually in another room, and many times, quite frankly, I have forgotten I put it on silent.

I was just in a networking group this morning, reading through a discussion on response times to client messages and what is an acceptable turn around time for a response after normal operating hours. Some people have no boundaries. Just because you want to make an appointment at the moment you thought of it doesn’t mean I’ll respond at 3am when you text me. And if you get in touch on a weekend when I’m not working, I won’t respond until regular business hours. I have business hours just like the big corporations do… kindly respect them, please.

I think back to when I was a kid. We had ONE telephone for the entire family, and it was attached to the wall with a cord. There was no text messages, no call waiting, and no voice mail. We went out into the world and did things. And the earth continued to spin, and eventually, you would reach the person you were calling. And that was ok.

Flash forward to today’s modern technology. If someone calls and connects to your voice mail, the common practice is to leave a message. Maybe they send a text, too. Maybe they follow-up with an email. So many ways to get in touch, and yet, what’s the rush? Why the overkill? Breathe, people.. the person will get back to you when they have a minute. Unless you are a debt collector.. you folks probably won’t get a call back. But the earth will certainly still spin.

In today’s culture, clients will try to get in touch to schedule, change, or cancel an appointment at any hour. When I had my private studio, I was a one person operation. I was not sitting at the desk as a receptionist, I was in the treatment room in a client session. I checked voice mail when I could, and I got back to people when I was able.

Unfortunately, some people have been conditioned to expect an immediate response when they reach out. If I didn’t call back immediately, there were actual clients who would leave multiple messages within the span of an hour or two. Maybe at a corporate office where one sits at a desk, this is acceptable… but if I am scheduled with 90 minute client sessions all day, I might not have even stepped out of the treatment room yet.

And think about this.. the people who call me are actually calling because they want to relax. All of this expectation for an immediate response over trying to relax! Talk about an oxymoron!!

So I challenge you, dear ones, to take a breath when it comes to communication. Give the person you’ve left a message for, or texted, or emailed a little time to respond. And please don’t overkill with all three. That will just take them longer to respond because they are sifting through multiple contact points for the same darn issue.

If you know me, or have ever called my phone to leave a message, you likely know I do not respond right away. Even my outgoing voice mail message says that if you choose to leave a message, it may take me a couple of days to respond. And for a quicker response, please text me. This is because of the nature of my business. I am in a treatment session, in a room one on one with a client most of the business day. My phone is not even in the same room. In the very few minutes I have between clients, I’m not sitting at a desk or picking up my phone… I am addressing follow-up care with my client, scheduling the next appointment, changing over linens and sanitizing the treatment room, and bringing in my next client. I’m honestly NOT listening to voice mail.

That’s not to say I don’t care about who is calling. I certainly do! And when you come in for a session, you get the same undivided attention as my client who was there the day you called and left 14 messages.

Truth be told, I only listen to voice mails once a day, usually well after business hours and almost always far later than is socially acceptable to call someone back. I’ll get back to you, but it won’t be immediately.

This urgency seems to be universally practiced in our society filled with smart phones, tablets, computers, apple watches, and the like. We have forgotten boundaries, simple manners, and common courtesy. Actual communication and patience has become a lost art. And frankly, all this immediate expectation for instant gratification… isn’t it stressful?

I have clients that desperately need to relax. Yet, they feel like they can’t set their phone 3 feet away on the counter for 50 minutes, because someone might try to call. (Gasp! OMGosh what if someone calls???) I’m not speaking about emergencies. I’m speaking about routine conversations. You can’t set the phone down for less than an hour? Really?

Obviously, if you are a 911 dispatcher, or a parent getting a call from the school in the middle of the day, or expecting a call from the president of the company, you’d want to answer that phone. But if you took the time to schedule yourself a session to relax, at least put the phone on the counter. If the Pope calls you within that 50 minutes you’re in a treatment room, just know that most massage therapists can actually hear the phone ring, and we are totally capable of handing the phone to you if and when it does. Easy peasy. So, please relax.

I see this overabundance of communication and 24/7 expectation like a leash. I don’t know about you, but I don’t particularly like being limited and constrained in my life by other people’s expectations about anything… especially in how quickly I respond to a message or voice mail.

Next time you are out in public, notice how many people have their head down, looking at their device. I challenge you to make eye contact with someone and just smile. Or maybe “be in the moment” and notice the breeze. Or even hear the birds. Most people miss these things in our culture today. Because they are glued to their smart phone. Google, Facebook, and Snapchat will still be there when you get home, friends.

Have an awareness of the amount of time you spend on the phone/computer/tablet/social media.

This also really bothers me: no one seems to consider the huge side effects of EMF radiation and how this affects the human body. Think about that blue tooth device stuck in your ear, right next to your precious brain for most of the day. Or the neck issues the next generation will have from the forward head posture of texting, and the likelihood of hand and wrist issues from texting and typing. Or the vision and retina problems and brain issues that are currently developing in our society from looking at the lit up display screen all the time. These issues are actually developing right now, people.

Just know, all this “freedom” to communicate is creating a new blend of issues that haven’t really been studied or discussed for the long-term. This in addition to the crossing of boundaries, personal space, and the social expectation and stress it creates.

At the very least, friends… if you reach out to someone.. please realize that they might actually be busy doing something on the other end of that phone call, email, or text. Take a breath and go get busy doing something else. Enjoy life and be in the moment. They will respond when they can. Just give them a bit of time.

In my little world, I personally like to be grounded. I like peace and tranquility. I like having an actual conversation with an actual live person. It’s old school communication at its purest form. It’s kind of a lost art, but it still works. Yes, I appreciate technology, but I don’t think having it attached to my hip is healthy or necessary. I know, what a weird human thing, right? Technology really is great… until it isn’t.

Love, Cam xoxo

If a smart phone rings and there is no one there to answer it right away, does it still make a sound? How do you feel like your smart phone is a leash? Get in touch and tell me your story, I want to hear it!

Never Say This To A Massage Therapist

I have been a certified massage therapist for more than a decade. I love what I do for a living, and I’m pretty darn good at it, as referenced by my 5-star yelp reviews, my consistently booked appointment schedule, and the thousands of clients I’ve worked with over the years.

Not to toot my own horn, but I am highly educated in my field. I hold an advanced diploma in sports massage, and I hold both state and national certifications in massage therapy and more. I happen to help quite a lot of people with the healing work I do, and I have the most amazing, respectful clients on the planet.

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(Some of my certifications in massage therapy and other healing work)

Sometimes, however, people in general make comments, jokes, and innuendo about the massage profession at large. I’m sure y’all know what I’m referring to here… the ol’ “happy endings” joke, and related innuendo.

I want to clarify a universal truth for the masses. Here it is:

All educated, licensed, certified professionals are offended by remarks referencing “happy endings” and any related innuendo.

This subject is most definitely NO JOKE to us. Do NOT ever say anything related to this to your massage therapist.

When you “joke” about this subject, you’re basically implying that you think we are hookers. We most definitely are not. We are badass professionals who are educated and licensed to do healing work.

Us massage therapists… we went to school to learn quite an extensive amount of anatomy and physiology so that we can therapeutically and appropriately address your pain and muscle dysfunction. We spent hours in supervised practical labs learning healing techniques so that we won’t hurt you. We were taught and tested, guided and watched by instructors, and corrected until we perfected our techniques. We take continuing education classes every year to keep our skills on par with our profession, and current for the newest modalities. And we learned ethics, professionalism, and more… all to help people manage and relieve pain, increase range of motion, flexibility, function, and more. We assist our clients to lower their stress levels and recharge in their daily lives.

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(as a profession, we do abide by a stringent code of ethics)

There are literally thousands of benefits to professional massage therapy, but thats a topic for another post.

The actual hookers and non-professionals that created that “happy endings” idea make it challenging for us therapeutic massage professionals to even get licensed. We have to jump through legal hoops just to practice the craft we were educated in. We are legitimate professionals and yet we, as an industry, have ridiculous rules and regulations written into city ordinances, and we have to be fingerprinted because of the non-legitimate folks posing as us professionals.

Do y’all know that human trafficking is a very real problem in our society? Human traffickers pose as massage establishments and then make their victims perform sex acts under the guise of the massage profession.

Human trafficking and the sex trade are very real and make huge, negative impacts on the industry as a whole. Those folks are not educated in healing work. Yet they impact the ability of the legitimate professional to obtain a license in the industry. The hoops we have to jump through to show we are educated and professionals is astounding.

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(we have state and national certifications just like many other healing professions)

So when you make a “joke” referencing the happy ending, or sexual innuendo of any kind, we take offense.

I just read about a colleague who was recently introduced at a networking event, and the person introducing her made a “happy ending” reference in front of a room full of nearly 200 people. Can you imagine the horror that massage therapist felt in that moment?  NEVER make reference to these “jokes” in a public forum such as a networking event. Jokes like this can kill a reputation and a growing business. Not to mention, set up that professional to receive an onslaught of creeper calls. Yes, that really happens, too.

And just for clarity’s sake… yes, I do have a sense of humor. A pretty hilarious one, actually. But this particular subject is not remotely funny to any massage professional.

And if you happen to schedule a massage session with me, and you choose to reference any sexual innuendo or happy ending joke… this is THE absolute quickest way to have your session immediately terminated. And yes, I will still charge you for the session. Yes, even if you were “just joking”. I have zero tolerance for this in my practice. As does every professional I know. ZERO tolerance.

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(make no mistake.. this is called a THERAPY  TABLE, not a bed)

I could tell you stories about creepers (posing as potential “clients”) who seek out services that, shall we say, are not professionally therapeutic massage related. You’d be surprised how often this happens, actually. There is nothing “funny” about this subject, and by the way, it’s illegal to seek out/solicit prostitution in California. Yes, we actually do report those text messages and phone calls to local authorities.

I happen to have been blessed with the very best clients who are respectful of my craft, and who value the healing work I do. I personally don’t run in to this problem much anymore, but when the subject does comes up, it’s addressed immediately. Zero tolerance.

So please, respect and highly value your massage therapy professional. They are educated, licensed, and gifted in legitimate, professional, therapeutic healing techniques.. all to help you to live your life pain free!

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Shift Your Mindset, Change Your Life

I don’t know about you, but I’ve been through some HUGE changes in my life. Some changes were planned and exceptionally happy ones. Other changes were not planned, and emotionally, financially, and energetically disappointing. Some were even crippling.

Just as I wrote about in my previous post, Choose Empowerment, what we think (ahem.. our MINDSET) tailors our perception of ourselves and the world around us. Hey, life happens, right? How we react forms our mindset. One BIG ‘ol human truth is that our mindset plays a big role in who we are. And we can shift our mindset no matter what life has blessed us with.

A running coach I worked with years ago always used to repeat the following nugget of truth, to the point of irritation… I got the message as an athlete.. but I get it even more deeply now as a healer, mom, friend, woman…  The quote is this:

Whether you think you can, or think you can’t… you are right. -Henry Ford

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Yep, that’s me, thinking to myself “I Can”… circa 2008-ish

If your mindset is negative or limited, this is how you will see life. If your mindset is positive and joyful, this is how you will see life.

What mindset are you looking at your life with right now?

Me personally, I’ve had a rough go the last few years. I have felt really stuck and limited for the last year or so, in particular. I recently found myself saying things like “I used to…” or I am a “former”…   And every time I catch myself saying those words, I’m bothered by them. I certainly don’t want to have people think of me with that “she used to” perception!  I don’t even want ME to have that perception of myself, either!

As I had this realization, and started to really look at my life, I realized I needed to shift my mindset. I needed to make some changes. But how? Where do I start?

The Universe has a funny way of providing what we ask for, friends. 

Earlier today, I attended a seminar taught by my friend, Ken Baum. Ken needed a volunteer at his seminar, and I’d raised my virtual hand on social media and said I’d be available to participate. Ken is a hugely successful motivational coach to pro and aspiring pro athletes across the globe.

At the time I volunteered for this event, I was NOT thinking about myself or the changes I have been feeling called to make. I just figured 1) I had the day off, 2) I could potentially help someone, and 3) maybe I’d learn something in the process.

And what happened?

Holy moly!! Pretty cool stuff happens when you raise your hand and decide to participate in life. Friends, this is a reminder… when you feel your intuition pulling you to do something different and outside of your comfort zone… DO IT!!

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That time I stepped out of my comfort zone and ended up on 2 infomercials with Mari Winsor of Winsor Pilates

In the hour or so I was there, I met 4 really fantastic coaches. This was a certification training for coaches, and I couldn’t have found a better group to help me with defining my own goals, and (without them even realizing), to kick me in the ass.

As they were perfecting their coaching skills and training techniques with me, I began forming a VERY clear picture of things I wanted to change in my life. Not only did I identify WHAT I wanted to change for myself… but I actually got for myself an exceptionally clear mental picture of HOW to begin.

I don’t know about you, but once I have a mental picture and a very clear goal with a plan… the rest is mostly just showing up and participating every single day.

I came home directly from this seminar and immediately wrote out the goals I had envisioned. Tangible, do-able goals. And then I wrote a basic schedule to incorporate working on these goals in my planner. Just as easily as I used to do before my life turned upside down and my lifestyle changed. Had I forgotten how to do this? No. But I’d lost my spark of motivation for a short lil decade or so…

In that one hour I spent with Ken and his coaches… my entire mindset shifted. They probably had no idea. But it was wildly profound for me. I have a spark back. And determination. And now a plan.

I’ll share regular updates and progress reports as this journey unfolds for me. Right now, I’m in the space where I absolutely KNOW this is the next step, and I am ready!!

Shift your mindset, change your life.

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Note: MUCH love and gratitude to Ken Baum, and his coaches. Thank you for the work you did this morning!! You will impact more lives than you even know with this work. Keep doing what you are each doing!!

And for my dear readers… Have you ever had a powerful moment where your mindset shifted and you just KNEW? Did you ever have someone make a powerful impact on you in an ordinary everyday encounter? Get in touch and tell me your story, I want to hear it!

 

Choose Empowerment

I’ve had my share of unexpected “stuff” happen in my life. I’ve been the recipient of unexpected trauma, heartbreak, violence, embarrassment, humiliation, failure, injury, dark times, and more. Everyone on the planet has random forms and varying degrees of trauma to deal with and work through at some point in their life.

Despite these things that have happened to me, I’ve made a conscious choice to CHOOSE to be empowered from them.

You see, we can absolutely CHOOSE how to act or react to any life situation. We can choose to take positive steps after a trauma or an unexpected event, or we can take negative steps to stay stuck in it. Sometimes we don’t even realize which choice we are making. Remember, friends… we all have free will and choices to make in life.

When stuff happens to us in life, we take it all in… and BIG emotions, positive or negative, are created as a result. Those emotions shape our perceptions and our mindset, or what and how we think about our world and everything around us.

Emotions are POWERFUL! They can be a blessing or a beast. Emotions can and do eventually settle into our physical tissues, and when negative emotions are left unresolved or they are not worked through, they can potentially lead to illness or imbalance in our physical body down the road or later in life.

How we react to things is often influenced by others.. parents, teachers, friends, BFFs, coaches, siblings, healthcare professionals, the media, etc. Our mindset and our attitude is largely shaped and formed as we grow up. Our mindset is then reinforced by the people around us. Parents especially shape and condition our general attitude or mindset, and ultimately, how we perceive ourselves and who we are in the world.

Think about it. If you are surrounded by people saying “OMGosh, poor you” all the time, you could see how one would take on the role of victim. But if you’re surrounded by people saying “OMGosh what a terrible situation, but WOW! you are so strong!”, you can see how the mindset might shift to being empowered.

There are choices we can make… We can choose to be EMPOWERED after an event, or we can choose to be a VICTIM. And energy follows thought. What sort of thoughts do you choose on a consistent basis?

When I was in my early 20’s, I was attacked by a dog. I’d just had surgery and was advised by my doctor to go out walking to help myself heal. My first day out walking, a dog came charging after me. I couldn’t run or get away, as I was still recovering. I was sore, I had limited range of motion, and I still had stitches. This was terrifying at the time, and it left me feeling completely helpless. In that moment, I WAS helpless! Thankfully, a hero of a man heard the commotion outside of his house and came out to help me.

Why am I telling you this? Well, for years after that event, I developed a huge, irrational fear of dogs.. and that fear became crippling. This fear and victim mindset escalated quickly. I talked about it all the time to anyone who would listen. Every time I rehashed this event verbally or mentally, it left me feeling like a victim. This event consumed me and kept me in the victim loop and removed any power I had. Eventually, just the sound of a neighbors wind chimes, a sound that I perceived to be dog tags, would send me into an intense anxiety episode. My fear became compounded exponentially over time to the point that it started severely limiting my life and daily activities. It was then I realized I had become a victim, and I had a choice to make.

I could have stayed stuck in the fear, and lived my life like that.. a victim. The victim of an event that was outside of myself. I could have held on to that victim role forever. But instead, I chose to empower myself. I decided I no longer wanted to be afraid. I wanted my power back. I wanted my life back. Yes, this was absolutely a choice.

I found a therapist who worked with me in a positive, empowering way to get past the fear. She helped me to see that not all dogs will attack. She helped me to understand that my surgery rendered me to feel helpless in that moment on that day, but that  I was now strong. She gave me homework to do between sessions to help me actively take my power back.

This therapy was not easy. It was scary at first. But it was worth it! My therapist listened to me, and gave me constructive exercises to do to participate in my own well being. She even brought in a dog for me to work with, to become familiar with dog behavior, and I learned to be comfortable with a dog close by, and know I am safe. I conquered that fear of dogs. I EMPOWERED myself, despite the fear. I chose to NOT be a victim.

What’s the difference between a mindset of EMPOWERMENT vs. the mindset of a VICTIM?

If you’re empowered, you realize that the “event” or “thing” is not part of you, it’s outside of you. It’s something that happened, but now it’s over. You may get sympathy or attention because of it initially, but a healthy person can move away from it. You regain your own power and develop positive and healthy coping mechanisms to work through it. You create an inner strength with self care, which perpetuates a positive self perception. You are not defined by the event, or the thing that happened. It’s in the past, and you learn and grow from it, and move on.

You may not know HOW to get past the event in the beginning, but since energy follows thought, you CHOOSE to make the effort to get past it. If you can’t get past the event by yourself, you seek help and take active steps and participate in helping yourself. The point of this is… you take active steps to help yourself. You take back your power. And you surround yourself with loving people who will lift you up in this EMPOWERED mindset.

If you’re a victim, you tend to hold on to the “event” or the “thing”. You tend to rehash the thing over and over, and you talk about it constantly. You get attention and sympathy from it, but it becomes an unhealthy form of attention. This attention keeps you stuck in a loop and removes your power. Eventually, being stuck in the loop creates unhealthy coping mechanisms. Maybe it’s a negative self perception, maybe its a loss of inner strength, maybe it’s even self harm.

Being a victim gives “the event” or “the thing” all of your power, and you start to feel helpless or that it’s impossible to get past it. Some people actually embrace this feeling of helplessness. And you might even be surrounded by people who reinforce this mindset for you, whether they mean to or not. It’s a circle that becomes hard to break over time, unless you choose to break it. And I can tell you from experience, YOU CAN ABSOLUTELY BREAK THIS CYCLE.

So again… if energy follows thought.. what would you like to be in life? Empowered? or a Victim?

Personally, I much prefer standing in my own power. Maybe one day I’ll write a book on some of the scary, messed up stuff that has happened to me in this life. Most people wouldn’t have a clue I’ve had some serious, major trauma happen to me. I don’t really discuss those events much. I don’t hold on to those events like I own them, because they are outside of me. I certainly learned some lessons from them, but I chose to move on. Only my handful of people closest to me know my stuff, and have helped me through the rough bits when I needed support.

Please DO seek professional help if you are the victim of an event that leaves you feeling powerless. Find a great therapist who will not only help you talk about what happened, but also give you active and constructive homework to assist you in getting past any trauma. Find yourself a really good one who won’t just let you rant about it without a solution, or keep you stuck in the loop of being a victim. Find a therapist who makes you do the work, even if it’s scary at first, or uncomfortable. You have to actually do the work, people. But trust me, its totally worth it.

In addition to mental healthcare, consider adding complementary care such as massage, energy work, or crystal healing to your goal of empowerment. These therapies can complement any psychotherapy work to help relax and calm the mind, body, and spirit. Energy work and crystal healing both work on the subtle energy layers of the body, where unresolved emotions tend to hang around. These treatments happen to be deeply relaxing and rejuvenating, which is uber-helpful when you are stressed out or feeling out of control. Schedule yourself a healing session and allow those emotions to be released on an energetic level, too.

So, friends, think about it… and I mean REALLY THINK ABOUT IT. Are you Empowered? or a Victim? What choices are you making?

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Love, Cam xoxo

PS – Do you have a story about your own personal empowerment? Have you done work on those subtle emotional layers of the body after a traumatic event? Get in touch, I’d love to hear your story!

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Sacred DeCluttering

If you are my client, or have read my blog, or if you happen to follow me on social media anywhere, then you’ve heard or seen me express one of my favorite universal truths..

“energy follows thought”

Depending on whether your thoughts are positive or negative, your energy will follow them. You can really learn a lot about a person, and where their energy is, by their personal environment.

For me, personally, MOST of the time, my home is neat and tidy, picked up, and clean. I like my bed made, my papers filed, my dirty socks in the hamper, my bathroom counter clear, and my kitchen sink empty.

Not many people know that the last 2+ years for me have been harsh, and very difficult, with multiple waves of unexpected life events that each had a negative impact on my life. I was completely burned out, exhausted, overwhelmed, brokenhearted, financially crushed, ashamed and embarrassed at the failure of my business, and pretty much just in a deep, dark, ugly, emotional space.

In the process of falling into this dark place, I unconsciously stopped taking care of myself, and my space. I’d come home and papers would just pile up on my desk. Dishes would pile up in the sink. I’d clean up occasionally, when I had the energy, but it was a perpetual buildup of clutter. And with each new addition to the pile of clutter, my energy would sink. I was absolutely exhausted, and my environment showed this without me ever having to say a word.

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how we feel on the inside shows up in our personal space

At the start of the new year, I chose a word, as I always do, to focus on. This year’s word for myself is NOURISH. I was so burnt out and tired all the time. What I needed was to nourish myself. I decided that every single day I would do one thing just for me. If that meant 5 minutes alone with my eyes closed just breathing, then so be it.

The first thing I did for myself at the beginning of the year was to alter my work schedule to have more balance, with free time for myself. You see, I’ve worked virtually the same work schedule for the last 10 years, never having a day off without responsibility or caring for others.. it’s the single mom way, I suppose.

My schedule now includes 2 days a month off that are just for me, no plans, no work, no kids, no obligations. This is what normal people have every weekend, but something I have not had the luxury of, in more than a decade.

Honestly, it feels like a holiday every other week. This was far and away one of the best things I ever did for myself. This time off gave me a chance to really look around at my life and really tune in to how I was feeling inside.

You might think I had some profound epiphany here.

Nope.

Baby steps, friends.

Clutter is a nasty goblin. Decluttering your space is a sacred practice. It doesn’t seem like it would be, but it is. I’ve previously read many books on the subject, but of course when you’re in the that dark pit of depression, you don’t actually see it, or think much about it.

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Card from one of my favorite decks, Wisdom of Avalon Oracle Cards by Colette Baron-Reid

You see, decluttering clears the energy in your space. In the book, “Sacred Space” by Denise Linn,  clutter is described like this: “Our homes are mirrors of ourselves. …They tell a story about how we feel about ourselves and the world around us”.

Having time for self-care, after changing my schedule, gave me a little spark of energy. And with that energy, I tackled a project that bugged me every freaking day for more than a year.

I tackled my bathroom. That doesn’t sound like a cure, does it? But this was the start of my sacred decluttering process. I started with just one drawer.

You know “that” drawer, ladies? The one with all the loose bobby pins, and hair ties, and barrettes, and hair clips? It was complete chaos in that drawer! I used that drawer every single day, and so did my two teenage girls.. you can imagine what it looked like. Every time I opened it, it frustrated me, and unconsciously stressed me out.

So one day, I emptied out every single thing from that drawer. I cleaned it and put down a drawer liner. I purchased an organizer with separate spaces for each of these items that were just cluttering up the drawer. And then… something subtle happened to my energy.

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the actual drawer that started it all… it’s like angels sing when I open it now

The next day, when I opened the drawer, I had almost forgotten I’d decluttered it. I was actually excited when I saw everything so organized! Still, after a month, it makes me almost giddy when I open that drawer.

OMGosh.. this is when I made the connection.. how I was feeling on the inside had been absolutely reflected in my personal space.. specifically in that messed up, chaotic drawer!!!

Over the next week, I cleaned out the other bathroom drawer, set up an organizer in it, and the under sink cabinets, and cleaned out the medicine cabinet, too. It may sound crazy, but just clearing out those things uplifted me for the entire week!

In the book Creating Sacred Space With Feng Shui” by Karen Kingston, the author brilliantly describes the effects of clutter on your life as “Clutter accumulates when energy stagnates… Everything you own is connected to you by strands of energy. ..Clearing clutter actually releases huge amounts of energy in the body.”

Friends, I’m describing to you my unofficial study on this subject, and it’s completely true.

Over this past weekend, I continued on in my sacred decluttering mission. I decided to tackle something that has been heavy on my energy for a very long time… I purged and reorganized my filing cabinets. This was a HUGE beast of a task. I’d closed my business at the end of 2015, and hadn’t really looked much at the swelling drawers full of papers since, other than to add to its contents.

There was quite a lot of suppressed emotion in this project. The heartbreak of failure, the shame of not being able to make my dream work, the embarrassment of letting clients down, the mortification of having the financial disaster  I’ve been left to deal with… it was all in that file cabinet. Just looking at the filing cabinets gave me that monster under the bed feeling…

I began the process by asking Spirit to guide me in this work. As I purged the papers, I repeated the Ho’oponopono to myself. (This is a Hawaiian prayer of forgiveness, if you didn’t know.. google it, it’s amazing!) I ultimately shredded multiple bags of stuff that had negative emotions attached to it.

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years of emotion, shredded and released.. yes, this is some of the actual paperwork from my sacred decluttering exercise

And at the end of the day, when I thought for sure I’d be exhausted, I found just the opposite!  I was full of energy!! I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders somehow. I didn’t feel that stagnant drain of dread when I looked at those cabinets anymore. The monster under the bed feeling was totally gone.

I actually felt… relief. And hope. And accomplishment. And empowerment. And maybe even a little joy.

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energy follows thought… and how we feel on the inside, shows up on the outside in our space

Decluttering my files, while just on the surface seems like a mundane task, was truly an energetic recharge for my soul. All the emotions that had been hanging around, attached to the paperwork, was gone. And the best part… I have space for something new now. A new idea, a new project, perhaps even a new business?

It’s been a few days, and today I woke up this morning feeling energized, and ready to start a new creative venture.. something I haven’t felt in years. I even brainstormed some ideas just because I had a sudden download of creativity. I absolutely know the process of decluttering shifted something for me. It was like a magical energy re-boot!

This sacred practice of decluttering can work in your home, obviously, but it can also work in your office, your car, your finances, your relationships… anywhere you may find some emotional baggage hanging around. Don’t think of decluttering as a chore… think of decluttering as sacred work.

The best advice I can give you about decluttering is this: Start small. One drawer. And see how you feel. You will likely find some momentum as you work, and surprise yourself at clearing up that internal clutter that’s weighing you down!

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PS – Do you have an experience about the sacred practice of decluttering your space? I want to hear it!  Get in touch and tell me your story!

Note: Extreme clutter is no joke. This can be an outward manifestation of internal distress, and can be an actual indication of a deeper or more serious issue. If you feel like your emotions, or your clutter, is out of control, or you feel like you need professional help, please consult your healthcare provider.